Love/Hate Boyfriend

"Dear Sera,

   I'm pretty sure people are going to call me stupid after reading this but I dont' know what to do. I love my boyfriend, and I know he loves me. And we have the most amazing times together. But when things go bad, they go really bad. I feel like he has no respect for me sometimes. He curses at me, tells me F U or other things just as bad. He calls me names like B!$%^ and whore and slut, even though he knows I've been faithful. He is an amazing person but he must have the worst temper and mouth in the world. What do you suggest I do?"

      Technically, I should tell you leave him, he's a dirtbag and you need a man who respects you and treats you with love unconditionally. If he really loved you, he would never treat you that way. However, this day and age, good men are hard to find. I don't think there is one single relationship out there who hasn't dealt with this in some shape or form at least once. But this sounds like something that happens regularly. What you need to do is decide for yourself what your limits are. I can tell you there are other fish in the sea, you can find someone better but you'll really only listen to yourself. You have to decide how far you will let it go. Maybe you can talk to him, let him know what you're feeling and see if he is willing to change.  If not, then you need to decide whether the love you have for him is worth your self respect. But I must say that this relationship doesn't sound healthy, and I would suggest leaving it before it crosses the line from verbal to physical abuse. Goodluck. - Sera